The Cancer Man
His Traits In Love, Dating, & Life
So, you’ve fallen for a Cancer Man and you’re absolutely smitten? Congrats to you for landing one of the most gentle-hearted, sweet, smart, and amiable people under any of the Sun Signs! Cancer males are not only gentle, but ultra-sensitive. Their sensitivity can prove to be oh so enticing to any female looking for an emotionally deep, intense, authentic, and genuine relationship. If you’ve won the affections of a Cancer Man, it is a major accomplishment indeed! He is one who doesn’t trust easily and keeps his circle of friends and family very tight. If he is allowing you into his life and he is willing to become emotionally involved, he sees something in you that is worth trusting.
You wanted emotionally intense and you can bet your bottom dollar that’s what you’ll get with a guy born under this Sun Sign. He is ruled by the moon, so his emotions run very deep. Thus, he’s apt to experience a funky mood from time to time. But, if you can handle the mood swings, you’re one fantastic step ahead of all others in the dating world who encounter the moody, sometimes broody Cancer Man.
Also bear in mind, it’s going to take a long time to earn his complete trust in you, so if you haven’t done so already, then don’t blow it! He trusts very little. His distrust can cause issues with jealousy and possessiveness. Yet, if you remain true to yourself as well as your Cancer Man, you’ll do quite well in keeping his interests. Just don’t even give off a hint of disingenuousness or that trust can be lost in the blink of an eye!
But, there’s one more thing I forgot to mention. It’s one small thing and it’s a trivial thing really. Did I happen to mention that you’ll have to meet with his mother’s approval if you’re really going to win his heart and mind?
Cancer Man Table of Contents
- Cancer Man
- In Love & In Bed
- Traits, Personality, Characteristics
- How to Attract a Cancer Man
- Dating a Cancer Man
- Best Gifts
- Facts, Mythology, & Metaphsyics
- Back to all Zodiac Signs
The Cancer Man is among the children the Moon governs. So, for the most part, he’ll go easily with the ebb and flow of things, moving through life’s situations naturally with little difficulty. But, just as the moon rules the watery tides, so too does this astral body rule over Cancer men and their behaviors.
As a moon child, the Cancer Man certainly knows all about appreciating a female, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well. With the moon as his planetary influence, you’ll find him sometimes mysterious and sometimes quite revealing, depending on his mood.
Cancer Man In Love & In Bed
(Venus in Cancer)
Think shy when you think Cancer male, or, at the minimum, Cancer’s most vulnerable self is behind a “protective shell” just like the crab representing this zodiac sign. Relationships with a Cancer tend to develop over the course of time. But, with this slow, methodical approach, you will also not an incredible depth and intensity that grows between the two of you as time passes. He will become more trusting the longer he knows you and he will then allow his vulnerability to being exposed… just a little at a time of course.
When a Cancer falls in love, he remains dedicated to his love and will be responsive to her in every way. He will demonstrate his respect and regard for her through chivalrous action and tender loving care. In the bedroom, he can be as gentle and tender as he is outside of it. But, beware, once you have seen his vulnerable side and he trusts you, he may very well let loose his inner animal in the bedroom too! While having sex is about love for the Cancer Man, when with his love, a bit of carnal desire and some chocolate flavored bedroom fun is perfectly acceptable to him too!
Cancer Man Traits, Personality, Characteristics
Cancers are represented by the Crab and for good reason; Your beau features a hard exterior on an emotional level. He puts on the facade of being tough and thick-skinned. The Cancer Man is the kind of guy who can take anything with a grain of salt. But, the truth of the matter is, he is only as strong as that “thin” outer shell allows.
Basically, he’s a big old softie who gets hurt oh so easily, even if he doesn’t show you just how much he’s hurting. When you are in love with a Cancer, you will find the depth of his emotions both attractive and frightening simultaneously! Just remember, if you plan on getting in deep, be careful not to hurt him emotionally. He’s one that will have tremendous difficulty bouncing back when you do!
Cancers are charming to the core so it’s easy to see how your man won you over. His demeanor is soft, gentle, and soothing so he can make you feel totally relaxed in his presence. Cancers make exceptional friends.
So, it wouldn’t be surprising if you started out on a friendship level first, only to find the relationship evolved over the course of time. It suits the Cancer Man nicely when he likes to take things slow, test the waters, and to dip his feet into something before diving right in–it is part of his automatic protective and self-preservation mechanisms.
You’ll find your Cancer Man might overly obsess about what people are thinking of him and this is rooted deeply in fear of abandonment and rejection. Any threat to his honor, good name or his reputation threatens him greatly.
Regardless of his self-protective nature, you’ll find your Cancer Man is imaginative, innovative, intelligent, and creative. He’s a man who gets comfortable at home easy. The Cancer male would much rather hang out in the comfort of his abode because it offers him solitude, no threats, and it is a place he can safely be himself without having to put on the facade of superhuman emotional strength!
As perfect as your Cancer Man is, you will face some challenges! Tread carefully now… as your gentle knight-on-a-white-horse is someone you’ll have to be willing to share. Share? But, what if you don’t like sharing?
Then you’re in for some rough roads ahead because you simply cannot circumvent sharing mama’s boy with his mother! That’s right; if you’re going to date a Cancer guy you’re likely to feel like you’re dating his mom too and let’s hope to God and everything holy that she approves of you otherwise it’s a downhill ride from there if she doesn’t!
And don’t expect your Cancer Man to break from tradition and to break free from underneath his mother’s thumb. Quite to the contrary, he is more than comfortable with the status quo! In fact, he loves his mother’s doting and he’ll want you to earn her respect! Fail to please her, you fail to please him, and then… well, things can take a bad turn.
Hearth & Home
The home is the domain where the Cancer Man most prefers to be. Here, they can enjoy themselves, and be let their guard down when in the presence of friends and family. They enjoy surrounding themselves with works of art whether it is created by them or by others.
Cancers are creatures who appreciate the beauty of the world and long to surround themselves with it. They remain close to their family, and as mentioned earlier, the bond between the Cancer Man and his mother is unbreakable. The Cancer Man is proud of his family name. Any mementos or heirlooms that he can collect he also holds dear. The heirlooms are items that allow him to maintain a rich emotional connection to his ancestry.
The Cancer Man loves to share the cozy environment he creates and establishes in the home. It is not uncommon for him to invite over family and his close friends to enjoy a bit if his hospitality. When totally comfortable, the Cancer Man feels the most sociable, but especially within the protective shell of his home environment.
Health & Well-Being
The sign of Cancer rules over the stomach and the digestive system. This is no surprise as at the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, right? His primary health issues are related to both digestive and circulatory processes. Water is the element of this sign which is what manages the body systemically.
Dehydration is something the Cancer Man should avoid at all costs and he may have a weak immune system triggered by a higher stress response than others. The emotional Cancer Man might best beg the question, “What’s eating me?” Other questions that might arise include “What am I having difficulty digesting” or “What in my life is a threat to my physical and/or emotional strength?”
Focusing on these questions will allow your Cancer Man to consider potential health risks and the possible triggers of common health issues. Thus, prevention of common health issues becomes a greater possibility.
Career & Finance
The Cancer Man is a responsible person when it comes to budgeting money, maintaining finances and establishing savings. In some instances, his friends and family may find him a bit excessive when it comes to monetary control. But, there are times he has no problem whatsoever spending a bit of money on those he loves and trusts.
He has concerns for financial security throughout life and therefore he tends to every penny he makes with care. With a significant focus on security and one eye on the future, Cancer males seek out multiple employment options or money-making ventures. They aren’t afraid to take on an extra job to makes sure plenty of money is available for that long-awaited rainy day. He may also invest his funds to get a big return on investment.
How to Attract a Cancer Man
If you want to prove attractive to a Cancer Man, you better like spending time at home because home is really where the Cancer Man’s heart is, literally! He’s represented by the crab for good reason! If you like good food, then you’ll love to have him cook for you. He prefers to cook anyway. He loves spending time in the kitchen which is much to the delight of his foodie Taurean friends. He also loves to have his closest friends visit so that he can entertain.
If he is going to cook for you, make sure you let him know ahead of time what you can or cannot eat. It is especially important if you have special dietary needs. You don’t want him to think you don’t like his cooking. Super sensitive Cancer is likely to do just that, no matter what you say otherwise.
Orange is one of the primary colors appealing to the Cancer Man, but so does indigo, and light blue. These men are found of light perfume, stylish clothing, and he likes the modest-leave-something to the imagination approach when it comes to dress preference. Make sure you are an exceptional conversationalist and that you take the time to listen intently when he speaks.
Remember always his key phrase is “I feel,” and if you do so, you’ll be able to avoid stepping on any sensitive nerves or hurting his feelings unintentionally. When you do talk with him, compliment him often, and do all you can to ensure his self-esteem remains high. Be genuine and never break his trust if you want the relationship to last. Any sign of unfaithfulness or dishonesty and the relationship will end a lot quicker than it began!
Dating a Cancer Man
Being a creature ruled by the moon and the element of water, the Cancer Man is one who enjoys water activities and sports. Don’t be surprised if you encounter him swimming, sailing, boating, surfing, water skiing, or on scuba diving adventures. An eye for all things beautiful, the Cancer Man likes vintage are collections as well as newer collections–this is how you can find him with relative ease. The Cancer Man and his sensitivities make him a great designer of interiors or terrific at making and creating things. Entertaining in the home is another thing Cancer Men find enjoyable.
Best Match for the Leo Man
Friends and Family
Leo Men are the considered the Kings of the Astrological Zodiac, but this does not make them condescending or authoritarian in any way. In fact, Leos love to have a great time and enjoy making others happy as well.
If you have picked a Leo Man as your life partner then know you have a friend, confidante, and lover you can trust. A Leo Man is someone you can rely on. I you are lucky enough to have a Leo Man as a father, you’ll find him a pillar of strength you can turn to throughout your life.
Just being a friend with a Leo means you are chosen… A Leo doesn’t just settle for being friends with just anyone. You must light up his life and lift his spirits. A Leo will not hang out with a stick in the mud, sore losers, spoilsports, or those who just don’t seem to enjoy life. A Leo craves a happy environment and will pull out all the stops to keep the atmosphere light and free. And as a king would have it, he will expect your loyalty… fall short of that and you are easily exiled from his kingdom! Remain loyal and you will come to know the king rewards his friends and family for it.
Even as a child the Leo male attempts to strive for the best achievements and seeks out recognition in any way possible. With doting parents willing to recognize such achievements, the young male will not go far. If, however, the Leo male child does not get the encouragement he craves, his steely anger can rear its head. A poor childhood can result in rebellious behavior stemming from anger issues. Even in his youth, a Leo male child might feel he is meant for greatness. Seeking fame may be something he considers early on in his life. Indeed, Leos tend to excel in film and theater roles, but some also excel in sports like football, tennis, and golf.
The most favorable signs that prove compatible with the Leo are Sagittarius and Aries. With action-craving Aries, you’ll find Leo more than satisfied since the female of his choosing will be able to keep pace.
The Aries and Leo combo work well together, and both love being entertained. The only time they clash is when it comes to attention seeking as both love being the center of attention. However, nothing tops a relationship like a Leo and Sagittarius combination. Leo loves to laugh as the Sagittarius woman jokes. It is her rich sense of humor that will keep him wanting more.
Libras and Geminis combine with Leo well too. Libra helps to keep Leo looking at the world with a more objective perspective. Geminis extremes certainly keep Leo hopping, and seeing Leo is a fire element, and both Gemini and Libra are Air elements, it proves an excellent combination whereas air feeds fire.
The Aquarian male is least compatible with those ruled by the sun sign Scorpio and Taurus. Some say opposites attract and if you believe that then you will believe there is a way for a relationship between a Scorpio and an Aquarian to work.
However, Scorpios are a bit more emotionally reactive than the Aquarius and the relationship itself is prone to waves of unpredictability. The same goes with a match-up of the Taurus and Aquarian mind; both personalities approach life with very different attitudes, with Taurus being more relaxed and subdued with the Aquarius being active, curious and one that forges forward when able. The two extremes once again make this kind of relationship unpredictable.
Astrology & Zodiac Gifts
Since your Cancer Man is a real homebody. You can bet he loves a home cooked meal. It is very likely he is not a bad cook either! So, why not make it easy for him to prep all the food he loves cooking by getting him brand new cooking utensils? If you can make it a gift, his mom can appreciate at the same time, then guess what… you’ve earned your brownie points for this go around!
Now, even though he loves being home in his own abode, he also loves to make his temple perfect. Gift cards so he can shop are equally ideal as a present for him. Just make sure you personalize the gift card by either choosing a specific location to shop, or by putting it in a beautiful card that you take time to select. The extra attention will make the gift personalized and affectionate, instead of looking like it was just a last-minute purchase.
Facts, Mythology, & Metaphysics
Cancer, the Crab, appears in Greek myth, especially in at least one story of Hera and Hercules. Hera was jealous of Hercules as his father was Zeus, her husband, but Hera was not Hercules’ birth mother. Thus, Hera swore she would get revenge for Zeus’ affair, and, as such, she was putting Hercules through some interesting challenges all his life.
One such challenge while defending himself against the Hydra, Hera sent Hercules the additional challenge of having to deal with a crab seeking to tear off his toes. However, Hercules won the argument by crushing the crab. Hera, in turn, rewards the crab for his loyalty and service by placing him in the sky.
Cancer is associated with The Chariot and The Moon card in the Tarot. If you look closely at The Chariot, you will see the Sun fills the background with light. But where there is the Sun, the moon always follows. The card features a nighttime sky scene on The Chariot’s drapery, featuring a royal blue sky-filled with white stars.
Look at the Gladiator’s attire and you’ll see his head comes to represent the moon between two crescents, one on each shoulder. Of course, the moon in The Chariot is far subtler than when it appears in The Moon card. With the Moon Card you’ll see our friendly crab in the moving waters. It is a symbol relating to the deep sensitivity and emotionality of your Cancer Man!
The number two applies to your Cancer Man as it is a number resonating with devotion, intuition, sensitivity, ambition, kindness, gentleness, understanding, friendliness, diplomacy, harmony, balance, duty, and service; all the latter features are strong characteristics in the Cancer Man. If your Cancer Man is out of balance for any reason, it may become evident in his behaviors.
Negatively, the number two resonates with stagnation, inflexibility, insensitivity, argumentative behavior, unloving actions, and an absence of genuine emotion or consideration. The Cancer Man correlates to the sacral chakra which the second from the bottom energy wheel running along the spine. The chakra rules money, sexuality, and creativity. If blocked, it corresponds with power plays, control, betrayal, and jealousy.
Cancer Dates: June 21st – July 22nd
Symbol: The Crab
Glyph Meaning: Glyph represents the claws of a crab.
Sanskrit: Karnataka, meaning, “The Crab.”
Key Phrase: “I Feel.”
Anatomical Rulership: Breast, Digestive, and Stomach
Animals: Crab, Unicorn, Stag, Seal, Otter, Heifer, and Turtle
Dream Archetype: Artist
Balancing Quality: Control over mood
Celtic Tree of the Month: Oak Tree (June to July) Holly (July 8 -Aug 4)
Meaning of the Celtic Tree: The Strong One and The Ruler
Chakra: Svadhisthana or Sacral Chakra
Chinese Zodiac Twin: Sheep
Compatibility: Pisces, Scorpio, and Taurus.
Planet’s Exaltation: Jupiter, Neptune
Feminine Deities: Luna, Diana, Minerva, Artemis, Dionysius, and Khephra
Flower: Lotus, Water Lily, Poppy, Passionflower, and White Rose. Honeysuckle, Pansy, Violet, and Jasmine also apply.
Healing Crystals: Moonstone, Labradorite, Amber, Pearl, Cat’s Eye, Turquoise, and Emerald.
Herbs: White Rose, White Poppy, Water Lily, Yellow Flag, Watercress, Poppy, Purslane, Passionflower, Moonwort, Houseleek, Comfrey, and Balm.
Masculine Deities: Apollo and Mercury
Metal: Sliver and Quicksilver
Musical Sound: Key of F
Number Vibrations: 2
Oils: Water Lily, Lotus, Sweet Flag, Aloe, Lavender, Myrrh, Rose, Cardamom, Sandalwood, and Chamomile
Planetary influence: Moon
Primary Colors: Silver
Secondary Colors: Blue, pastels, Bluish Green, and Green
Primary Need: Harmonious and peaceful family life
Scents: Jasmine, sandalwood
Seasonal Association: Summer
Tarot Card Associations: The Moon, The Chariot (VII).
Trees: Birch, Weeping Willow, Sycamore, and Alder
Celebrities: Donald Sutherland, Patrick Stewart, Tom Hanks, Tom Cruise, Harrison Ford, Kevin Bacon and Willem Dafoe.